Friday, May 15, 2009



Synchronicities can happen one after the other, as though a point is being made over and over again. Perhaps the friend you bump into on the street was a high school classmate you one had a strong, unrequited crush on. Later that day, you hear on the radio a song that puts you right back into your high school days and the hopeless romantic longings you had back then. And two days later, you open the newspaper and read a story about a budding film star who originally had the same name as the friend you bumped into.

That would be a string of synchronicities. Depending on what you are going through in life at the time, it could have all kinds of meaning. Perhaps it brings your romantic ideals into focus, clarifying what you want from your current relationship. It might bring about a realization of how you’ve always put your friend on a pedestal and you decide to go visit the friend so you can develop a more realistic relationship. Or you might be pleased to realize that the type of rejection that caused you pain back then no longer does, and to you this is proof that you’ve grown stronger over the years.

Notice that it’s the sequence of occurrences that make this a string of synchronicities. Meeting your friend on the street after so many years might be considered a coincidence by anyone’s reckoning; hearing an old song on the radio or reading a name in a newspaper might not. But because the events occur one after the other, they resonate in your consciousness and have specific meaning to you in their totality.

Another way in which strings of synchronicities appear is in repeating numbers or words. A certain number may start to emerge as a signal of something important in your life. You may never have heard a word or phrase before, and then you’ll hear it several times, in different forms and contexts. Sometimes the connection of the phrase to your life is clear and direct; sometimes it’s a puzzle. Pam Makie went to an evening meditation class in New York City and found herself moved by a quote of Nelson Mandela: "Our deepest fear is not that we are inadequate. Our deepest fear is that we are powerful beyond measure. It is our light, not our darkness, that most frightens us." The next day, a successful psychologist who is a client of hers confided, "I’m having a really hard time. Everything is going really great—and my deepest fear is that of my own light." Two days later, another friend said to her, "Did you ever read that book, The Unbearable Lightness of Being? You’ve got to have courage. You’ve got to stop being afraid of your own light." Says Pam, "I got the message!"

You might find that your life repeatedly intersects or parallels that of another person. Judy Swierczek was visiting a friend in New York City when she saw "Marie Suzanne Rogers" on the apartment lobby mailbox. Since she knew someone by that name from grade school she knocked on the door and introduced herself. She was the same Marie, and they discovered that that had lived a block away from each other in Boston at the same time and had worked for the same travel company there, but at different times. They had both moved back to New York at the same time and worked for the same video development company, but at different times. Marie now lives in Hawaii, where Judy once lived, and of course works for the same company—but at a different time.

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